Monday 8 August 2011
Wednesday 3 August 2011
TEN REASONS WHY HE WON'T CALL AFTER FIRST DATE
1. You looked NOTHING like your picture on your online dating profile.
If the girl has some sort of weird camera angle in her online dating pictures, guys: turn and run. There is usually a good reason why a girls pictures look like Pablo Picasso arose from the dead, bought a cheap $25 digital camera and decided to experiment with photography. I am not trying to be mean here, it’s just that everyone in life has different preferences in the opposite sex. As cheap and shallow as it may seem, I want to have a fairly good idea of what you look like before we go out. Still think I’m being mean? Look at it this way: If you were in line behind me at the grocery store and we made eye contact and you found yourself not physically attracted to me, would you be inclined to carry on a conversation with me and give me your phone number at the end? It works both ways, sweetheart.
If the girl has some sort of weird camera angle in her online dating pictures, guys: turn and run. There is usually a good reason why a girls pictures look like Pablo Picasso arose from the dead, bought a cheap $25 digital camera and decided to experiment with photography. I am not trying to be mean here, it’s just that everyone in life has different preferences in the opposite sex. As cheap and shallow as it may seem, I want to have a fairly good idea of what you look like before we go out. Still think I’m being mean? Look at it this way: If you were in line behind me at the grocery store and we made eye contact and you found yourself not physically attracted to me, would you be inclined to carry on a conversation with me and give me your phone number at the end? It works both ways, sweetheart.
2. Yack yack yack
Is there anything more rude than answering your cell phone and yacking away with your girlfriend while out on a date? I understand if your Aunt Martha fell down a flight of stairs and forget to recharge the batteries in her life-alert bracelet and she just happened to be carrying her new iPhone in her pocket with your number on speed dial….I really do. But when your girlfriend calls you in the middle of our date and you start blabbing away about what you did last night for more than 5 minutes, I find myself slowly reaching into my pocket to fake a phone call from my Uncle John who happened to fall down a flight of stairs with his discharged life-alert bracelet and his new iPhone…
Is there anything more rude than answering your cell phone and yacking away with your girlfriend while out on a date? I understand if your Aunt Martha fell down a flight of stairs and forget to recharge the batteries in her life-alert bracelet and she just happened to be carrying her new iPhone in her pocket with your number on speed dial….I really do. But when your girlfriend calls you in the middle of our date and you start blabbing away about what you did last night for more than 5 minutes, I find myself slowly reaching into my pocket to fake a phone call from my Uncle John who happened to fall down a flight of stairs with his discharged life-alert bracelet and his new iPhone…
3. I am not sure whether to buy you dinner or ask your hourly rate.
I realize you may have certain “assets” on your body. Most women do. And being a guy, I do like eye candy. But if I am looking for a potential relationship out of you….there is nothing that will make me turn tail and run than if you come dressed with your boobs half hanging out in a short miniskirt and flirt with every guy that you see. (prolonged eye contact with other males does indeed constitute “flirting”). I realize that I may have broken the “guy code” here by telling women to cover up, but it is not what it seems. When guys (at least me and my friends) are looking for a potential relationship with a female we are interested in, we want to know (or at least think) that our girl is as pure as the driven snow when she is out in public.
I realize you may have certain “assets” on your body. Most women do. And being a guy, I do like eye candy. But if I am looking for a potential relationship out of you….there is nothing that will make me turn tail and run than if you come dressed with your boobs half hanging out in a short miniskirt and flirt with every guy that you see. (prolonged eye contact with other males does indeed constitute “flirting”). I realize that I may have broken the “guy code” here by telling women to cover up, but it is not what it seems. When guys (at least me and my friends) are looking for a potential relationship with a female we are interested in, we want to know (or at least think) that our girl is as pure as the driven snow when she is out in public.
4. Say you, Say me, Say it for always, that’s the way it should be…
If during the course of normal conversation the lyrics to the above Lionel Richie song start popping into my mind, I find myself looking for any excuse to end the date. I am not a male model, but I do realize that some women find me pretty attractive/borderline “good looking”. If while talking to me your eye gaze starts suggesting that I should don a 1980’s JerryCurl and neon Miami Vice overcoat and get down on my knees and start singing you a ballad, I’m outta there man. Read this article and hit “crtl” “f” on your keyboard and enter in “eye contact” to take you to the part of the article that dictates how proper eye contact should happen. Great, now I got that stupid song stuck in my head.
If during the course of normal conversation the lyrics to the above Lionel Richie song start popping into my mind, I find myself looking for any excuse to end the date. I am not a male model, but I do realize that some women find me pretty attractive/borderline “good looking”. If while talking to me your eye gaze starts suggesting that I should don a 1980’s JerryCurl and neon Miami Vice overcoat and get down on my knees and start singing you a ballad, I’m outta there man. Read this article and hit “crtl” “f” on your keyboard and enter in “eye contact” to take you to the part of the article that dictates how proper eye contact should happen. Great, now I got that stupid song stuck in my head.
5. Pull my finger…
I am sorry, I realize that ladies do act like ladies most all of the time. But if you accidentally “let one go” and it is audible enough to ring the bell on the church 5 miles away….that just killed it. I realize that accidents do happen, but…..still. You might be able to salvage the date if there is a dog nearby and you deftly try to blame it on the dog. I am a big 3 Stooges fan, so the comedic value just might outweigh the shock value. A perfectly executed “Curly Shuffle” afterwards will result in bonus points.
I am sorry, I realize that ladies do act like ladies most all of the time. But if you accidentally “let one go” and it is audible enough to ring the bell on the church 5 miles away….that just killed it. I realize that accidents do happen, but…..still. You might be able to salvage the date if there is a dog nearby and you deftly try to blame it on the dog. I am a big 3 Stooges fan, so the comedic value just might outweigh the shock value. A perfectly executed “Curly Shuffle” afterwards will result in bonus points.
6. I’m feelin’ it, you facial expressions and body language show otherwise, but deep down inside, you really are.
Guys are not mind readers. When I go out on a first date with a girl, I am a little bit nervous. Even though I can cover it up really well, I am most likely walking on broken eggshells until I find that comfort zone. During the course of the date I try to watch a girl’s facial expressions and body language to get a guage on whether or not I might get rejected if I ask her out on a second date. If I am not getting any perceivable signs that she is interested, chances are I won’t call you back or write you another email. I hate getting rejected and probably most guys do too. I have had more than a few girls call me back after I neglected to call them back after the first date, telling me how big of an “a-hole” I was for “leading them on”. Well if they had shown me some sign (any sign !!) that they were in the least bit interested in me, then I would have. Guys fear rejection too, ladies.
Guys are not mind readers. When I go out on a first date with a girl, I am a little bit nervous. Even though I can cover it up really well, I am most likely walking on broken eggshells until I find that comfort zone. During the course of the date I try to watch a girl’s facial expressions and body language to get a guage on whether or not I might get rejected if I ask her out on a second date. If I am not getting any perceivable signs that she is interested, chances are I won’t call you back or write you another email. I hate getting rejected and probably most guys do too. I have had more than a few girls call me back after I neglected to call them back after the first date, telling me how big of an “a-hole” I was for “leading them on”. Well if they had shown me some sign (any sign !!) that they were in the least bit interested in me, then I would have. Guys fear rejection too, ladies.
7. I just wasn’t feeling it
I really can’t break this one down any further. I am sure this goes both-ways without saying. If I am “not feeling it”, I will not lead you on, and you will know that it just isn’t happening for me. I would only hope that you have the same courtesy to do that to me instead of leading me on.
I really can’t break this one down any further. I am sure this goes both-ways without saying. If I am “not feeling it”, I will not lead you on, and you will know that it just isn’t happening for me. I would only hope that you have the same courtesy to do that to me instead of leading me on.
8. Red Flags
I am writing this “top 10″ list from the perspective of a guy who is looking for a relationship. If I was looking for anything else, I would probably not be as picky. I look for little “red flags” in women that suggest certain things/traits that I am not looking for. It’s a scientific fact that some women lie. I don’t know why this is, nor do I know the name of the scientist that made this incredible discovery. You will have to trust me on this one. So when I am out on a date, I purposely ask carefully worded questions during the course of normal conversation. If something isn’t adding up, I will slowly but surely zone in on the area that I don’t like, which brings us to reason #9:
I am writing this “top 10″ list from the perspective of a guy who is looking for a relationship. If I was looking for anything else, I would probably not be as picky. I look for little “red flags” in women that suggest certain things/traits that I am not looking for. It’s a scientific fact that some women lie. I don’t know why this is, nor do I know the name of the scientist that made this incredible discovery. You will have to trust me on this one. So when I am out on a date, I purposely ask carefully worded questions during the course of normal conversation. If something isn’t adding up, I will slowly but surely zone in on the area that I don’t like, which brings us to reason #9:
9. Rule of 3
I am probably going to get shot by the “man counsel” for giving out this little gem, but a general rule of thumb (intelligent discretion must be applied) is that you take the amount of men that a girl says she has slept with, and multiply it by 3. I realize that there may be other formulas for this one….but my hippie community college professor once told me to stick with the rule of 3. Why am I telling you this? Because when I am looking for a relationship with a girl, I don’t want to know how many men you slept with (but i do). Does this make sense to you ladies? If not, then my work here is done.
I am probably going to get shot by the “man counsel” for giving out this little gem, but a general rule of thumb (intelligent discretion must be applied) is that you take the amount of men that a girl says she has slept with, and multiply it by 3. I realize that there may be other formulas for this one….but my hippie community college professor once told me to stick with the rule of 3. Why am I telling you this? Because when I am looking for a relationship with a girl, I don’t want to know how many men you slept with (but i do). Does this make sense to you ladies? If not, then my work here is done.
We now come to the final (and most important) reason why men never call women back after the first date. This will undoubtably go down in history and will make me untold millions of dollars and I will be featured on Dr. Phil and Jerry Springer.
The last and most important reason why men don’t call women back after the first date:
10. There was a good football game on t.v. the next day and we plain forgot.
To the author/owner of this website, I can only give you one piece of advice here. You need to lower your standards, sweetheart.
To all the women who are wondering why a guy never called them back, I have just one piece of advice: FORGET ABOUT IT. There is a reason (be it good/bad or otherwise) why the guy didn’t call you back. Maybe he didn’t like you, maybe he did like you and is too shy to call you back, maybe he lost his cellphone that had your number on it. Whatever the reason, he isn’t calling you back. Get over it and move on. There are WAY too many proverbial fish in the sea to get all worried and bent out of shape because a guy didn’t call you back. I can’t even begin to count how many women in my life haven’t called me back. It’s just the name of the dating game and the nature of the beast. Cry yourself a river then build a bridge and get over it.
Friday 15 April 2011
How to Make a Man Beg for Sex
You've met this great guy, he's everything you could imagine him to be for the first month or two, and then all of a sudden.........he changes. Before, he would give his all in the bedroom and lick you till kingdom come. He would say how he couldn't wait to see you. He would tell you nice things to make you blush all day at work. He was attentive to you and your needs and did everything you wanted him to and now.........he starts saying nooooo!
Or perhaps you married a guy, the wedding was wonderful with the honeymoon, flowers, and cake..........and then he turns out to be a horror from hell a few months later. Sounds familiar? Read on to see how you can keep your man pleasing you, and how to avoid common mistakes most women make.
Men are attracted to women because of a need to fulfill something in their own lives. Whether you give your man confidence, happiness, money, children, prestige or sex, you are fulfilling
something in him that he cannot fulfill himself. The problem with most women is that they take themselves for granted and they give too much of their best asset too fast. Sure you want to impress a man, but learn to give him very little bits of whatever he loves in you over a long period of time, so he won't get tired of you.
1. Most women make the mistake of making themselves too accessible early in the relationship.
You need to learn how to make yourself unavailable for your man. When a man gets too used to your company, he starts to take you for granted and assumes that you will always be there. Boredom sets in and then he starts to tell you no when you want something, and he'll start to try to control you or he'll just leave. If you already live together, try to find things to do so you're not always up in each others face.You need to keep him wondering just how much you need him..
2. Don't ever give your beauty secrets away to him
Girl, don't ever do your hair and makeup in front of your man! Do it in the bathroom or somewhere he can't see. Hair and makeup are an illusion that you control, which probably drew him to you in the first place. It's like being impressed by a magician, and then the magician reveals the magic trick! You're no longer impressed! We polled married women in their sixties, and they all told us that they kept their man in suspense for all these years. One woman told us her man has never seen her without her wig! Even if he tells you he likes to see you natural, he'll get bored and move on to another woman's illusion. Don't always assume he'll be content seeing the "real" you! However you were when you met him is what he's attracted to. Even if you gain weight try to keep yourself looking fabulous.
3. Never overbuild his confidence!
One of the worst things you can do in a relationship is overbuild a man's confidence. Be very sparing when it comes to giving him praise or compliments. Praise God instead. Men need women in this area of their lives because the world is constantly trying to beat them down all the time, regardless of how strong they are. When you praise him too much, he'll think he's the strong one and you're dependent on him. An over praised man will look to add more women to his list because he's just too much for you! Make him earn his compliments. Give it little by little. Make him work to stay in your presence. If you got an ugly man, don't try to dress him up for you because he'll think now he's too cute for just you. You'll fix him up and he'll tear you down. Plus you'll attract other females to him. You be the pretty one and let him be himself, and he'll cherish your beauty forever. If you got a handsome man, make him wonder if he's handsome enough for you. Don't over praise and don't fix up: fix you!
4. Don't marry him or let him get you pregnant too fast!
Men love the chase, a woman who gives in finds herself going from a happy hot girl to being his miserable dish cleaner. It's like a game for most men, if you're a hot girl , they will want to take you off the market by getting you pregnant or marriage. In their minds, this makes you theirs, so now they can go out and chase something else because they got you already. Beware of men that have low confidence, unattractive men, or guys that give you money.
5. Have a plan for your relationship
Know what you need in advance before you enter a relationship. Know your strong points and what makes you appealing to men. What do they want from you? Don't just be with someone, have a detailed plan of what they can do to make you happy with them, and how they are going to keep it up. Make sure you get what you want. It's either you or them. Take my word on this. If he spends on you, try to get cash and save it, so you'll have something if he wants to play around later or leave you. This way you're never wasting your time. Most men put on an act for the first 30-60 days (especially if you don't give up the coochie quick!) and then they revert to their real selves. Learn how to keep them in their act by perfecting your own.
6. Learn how to use your C.C.
Do you know how to use your coochie control? Are you giving it up on the first date or every time your man wants it? Then you obviously are not using your C.C. No matter how good you think you are in bed, there's someone out there who will give it to your man better! Learn how to be sparing when giving your man his rewards. It should always be a reward for something good he's done for you. If you're giving him too much, he'll get too used to it and find other excitement elsewhere. She might not even be better than you, just something different from his usual everyday woman! Don't think he'll stray if he's not getting yours. If he's going to cheat he'll do it it regardless! Don't settle for routine sex from him. Hold off until he deserves it. Then he'll be hungry every time he gets it from you!! Never let your coochie become ordinary, it's priceless!
7. Be careful of public shows of affection
You love attention and so does your man, regardless of what you think or what he tells you. You might think he's affectionate in public, because he wants to show the world how much he loves you. By showing too much affection for him in public, you are drawing other females attention to him. They usually will want to compete with you. Worst if he's a man you fixed up. He will take their numbers behind your back, or do all of your friends when you're not looking. This tend to happen a lot to pretty girls. Let him show his affection for you in the bedroom. Then, it's all about you and you get what you want. Your guy will usually want to kiss you while another female is looking. Just tell him "not now honey." If it's real affection, he'll work your nana in the bed when you get home!
Or perhaps you married a guy, the wedding was wonderful with the honeymoon, flowers, and cake..........and then he turns out to be a horror from hell a few months later. Sounds familiar? Read on to see how you can keep your man pleasing you, and how to avoid common mistakes most women make.
Men are attracted to women because of a need to fulfill something in their own lives. Whether you give your man confidence, happiness, money, children, prestige or sex, you are fulfilling
something in him that he cannot fulfill himself. The problem with most women is that they take themselves for granted and they give too much of their best asset too fast. Sure you want to impress a man, but learn to give him very little bits of whatever he loves in you over a long period of time, so he won't get tired of you.
1. Most women make the mistake of making themselves too accessible early in the relationship.
You need to learn how to make yourself unavailable for your man. When a man gets too used to your company, he starts to take you for granted and assumes that you will always be there. Boredom sets in and then he starts to tell you no when you want something, and he'll start to try to control you or he'll just leave. If you already live together, try to find things to do so you're not always up in each others face.You need to keep him wondering just how much you need him..
2. Don't ever give your beauty secrets away to him
Girl, don't ever do your hair and makeup in front of your man! Do it in the bathroom or somewhere he can't see. Hair and makeup are an illusion that you control, which probably drew him to you in the first place. It's like being impressed by a magician, and then the magician reveals the magic trick! You're no longer impressed! We polled married women in their sixties, and they all told us that they kept their man in suspense for all these years. One woman told us her man has never seen her without her wig! Even if he tells you he likes to see you natural, he'll get bored and move on to another woman's illusion. Don't always assume he'll be content seeing the "real" you! However you were when you met him is what he's attracted to. Even if you gain weight try to keep yourself looking fabulous.
3. Never overbuild his confidence!
One of the worst things you can do in a relationship is overbuild a man's confidence. Be very sparing when it comes to giving him praise or compliments. Praise God instead. Men need women in this area of their lives because the world is constantly trying to beat them down all the time, regardless of how strong they are. When you praise him too much, he'll think he's the strong one and you're dependent on him. An over praised man will look to add more women to his list because he's just too much for you! Make him earn his compliments. Give it little by little. Make him work to stay in your presence. If you got an ugly man, don't try to dress him up for you because he'll think now he's too cute for just you. You'll fix him up and he'll tear you down. Plus you'll attract other females to him. You be the pretty one and let him be himself, and he'll cherish your beauty forever. If you got a handsome man, make him wonder if he's handsome enough for you. Don't over praise and don't fix up: fix you!
4. Don't marry him or let him get you pregnant too fast!
Men love the chase, a woman who gives in finds herself going from a happy hot girl to being his miserable dish cleaner. It's like a game for most men, if you're a hot girl , they will want to take you off the market by getting you pregnant or marriage. In their minds, this makes you theirs, so now they can go out and chase something else because they got you already. Beware of men that have low confidence, unattractive men, or guys that give you money.
5. Have a plan for your relationship
Know what you need in advance before you enter a relationship. Know your strong points and what makes you appealing to men. What do they want from you? Don't just be with someone, have a detailed plan of what they can do to make you happy with them, and how they are going to keep it up. Make sure you get what you want. It's either you or them. Take my word on this. If he spends on you, try to get cash and save it, so you'll have something if he wants to play around later or leave you. This way you're never wasting your time. Most men put on an act for the first 30-60 days (especially if you don't give up the coochie quick!) and then they revert to their real selves. Learn how to keep them in their act by perfecting your own.
6. Learn how to use your C.C.
Do you know how to use your coochie control? Are you giving it up on the first date or every time your man wants it? Then you obviously are not using your C.C. No matter how good you think you are in bed, there's someone out there who will give it to your man better! Learn how to be sparing when giving your man his rewards. It should always be a reward for something good he's done for you. If you're giving him too much, he'll get too used to it and find other excitement elsewhere. She might not even be better than you, just something different from his usual everyday woman! Don't think he'll stray if he's not getting yours. If he's going to cheat he'll do it it regardless! Don't settle for routine sex from him. Hold off until he deserves it. Then he'll be hungry every time he gets it from you!! Never let your coochie become ordinary, it's priceless!
7. Be careful of public shows of affection
You love attention and so does your man, regardless of what you think or what he tells you. You might think he's affectionate in public, because he wants to show the world how much he loves you. By showing too much affection for him in public, you are drawing other females attention to him. They usually will want to compete with you. Worst if he's a man you fixed up. He will take their numbers behind your back, or do all of your friends when you're not looking. This tend to happen a lot to pretty girls. Let him show his affection for you in the bedroom. Then, it's all about you and you get what you want. Your guy will usually want to kiss you while another female is looking. Just tell him "not now honey." If it's real affection, he'll work your nana in the bed when you get home!
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